Amo & Opportunities

My thoughts are all over the place this morning on what to write. I have ADHD, so that’s not really outside of the realm of norm for me. You’ll probably notice a lot of my posts jump around, and if you know me in real life… you’ve most likely noticed some of my ADHD tendencies. I’m going to try to stay on track for what I am intending to write on, but I might go down another avenue I didn’t intend. This is a mix between my hyper fixation (ADHD) and my channeling (spirit) where a specific message needs to come out, despite my wanting to go a different direction.

I have been sharing my healing journey with everyone between this blog and my TikTok channel. I was in the shower the other day, and had this thought pop up in the back of my mind. It was an old voice… from the old me; one of conditioning and insecurities. That voice said, why are you sharing your healing journey with people? You know there are people that follow you, only wishing you ill will and to fail. People who want dirt on you to gossip about when you’re not around or to jab a knife in you, when you’re around just to see how you squirm. All you’re doing is giving people ammunition to hurt you in your most vulnerable places. You’re basically waving a flag and drawing people’s attention to where you are weak, where you are trying to do better, and where you hurt the most. Why the hell would you do that?!

That voice is right. I am doing that. I absolutely am giving these people exactly what they want. I’m sure they love it. That’s okay though. No matter what you do in this life, there will always be people like that. Always. I am sharing my journey for the people who might need any advice, wisdom, or just to know they’re not alone in what they’re going through. My intentions are good. I am not going to worry about what anyone else is doing or does with the information I give. That’s wasted energy. I am in a good place with my healing and growth. People that thrive in behavior that tears down others… are not in a good place. They’re not healing, they’re not growing. That’s unfortunate, sure, but that’s just where they are on their journey. It’s not my business.

I am not going to stop trying to help others. I am not going to water myself down or be anything less than my most authentic self, because it rubs people the wrong way. Not everyone is going to like you. It doesn’t matter what you do, you will never please everyone. There will always be haters; for me, for you. What they think of you does not matter. There is one person you have to spend the rest of your life tied to. That’s you. Do you like you? Do you feel good? Are you being who you want to be? Are you wearing masks to please others, that you can never please? Why do you care? The more authentic you become, and the brighter you shine… the more you attract the right people into your life. It starts with making a safe place for yourself to live and grow. To love yourself. To embrace your faults, and work on them. To celebrate your strengths. Once you make your bubble a safe place for you, you can extend that to others. Be that safe place for them to be themselves, to love themselves. And let that bubble grow and grow and grow. The people outside your bubble… let them do what they do. They’re going to anyways. Free your mind of the burdens of caring what anyone else thinks about you. If you know who you are and what you stand for… their words and actions will not shake your foundation.

Do I enjoy when people send me bad energy? Do I love that people want me to fail and talk poorly about me? No. Who would?! But I take it as it is. It’s going to happen. So, when it does, I don’t play victim. I look at it as an opportunity. It’s an opportunity to test my healing and growth. How am I doing? Where do I need to focus more of my attention? Where are my weak spots? As much as you don’t want that energy, it helps you with your growth and healing. I feel like these people were put in my life for these very reasons. You come to a point where you’re done. You get pushed too far and something in your mind says… “No, I no longer will accept this behavior/energy.” So, you step away, you distance yourself, you heal, you grow. People will hate you for it. You’ll be called selfish. And you’ll question if you are or not, because it won’t feel natural.

When you are so used to giving too much to people, or not setting boundaries, or setting boundaries but allowing them to cross them, or when you let people treat you a way that makes you feel bad or depletes your energy… no longer doing that is going to feel unnatural. People have a way of conditioning the people around them to behave in ways that benefit them. They might not even know they’re doing it. If you find yourself going home after an interaction with people… and thinking about how bad they made you feel but you just smiled, laughed it off, or stayed silent… you’ve been conditioned to react that way. That conditioning could have been going on your entire life. It’s different for everyone. It’s okay if you step back from people that don’t make you feel good. It’s okay if you conserve your energy around people who deplete it. It’s okay to love yourself enough, to walk away from things and people that no longer make you feel okay. It’s not selfish. It’s brave. It’s smart.

You’re breaking cycles. Cycles that keep you vibrating low and staying in that energy. People that vibrate low, like to keep people vibrating low with them. Misery likes company. Elevate yourself. People that aren’t happy to see you healing and growing, are not your people. They’re not. People all around you are healing and growing every day. And they are most likely letting people fall away too. Maybe they’re your people, now. This doesn’t mean that EVERYONE in your life has to fall away. No, that’s not what I’m saying. You might have friends and family that make you feel bad sometimes, but you love them unconditionally. In cases like that, it’s important for you to set your boundaries and stick to them. If they start making you feel bad, it's time to go. There’s no need to storm off or make a big thing of it. You’re not that person anymore. People are where they’re at on their journey, it’s not for us to change them or give them ultimatums. But, just as people condition you… you can condition others to know what you will tolerate and what you will not. Stand in your power. Hold those boundaries for people. They’ll figure it out. I pray for my loved ones, and I pray that we all heal in grow in all the ways that we need (because it varies in people). I will always love and care for certain people in my life. I will always want the best for them. But it is their life, their journey, and they will heal and grow in their time. That’s as it should be. It’s our responsibility to focus on where we are… and where we want to go. Set boundaries, hold people to them. Love people from where they are… not where they could be. Love yourself… hard… above all else. There is no greater advocate for you, then you. This is your life. You’re the main character of your story. Make it a great one!